Why Date Nights Are So Important to Married Couples

Think about your days before children. What did you and your spouse talk about? What important thoughts did you share with one another in your quiet moments?

Once you get married and have kids, it seems that all conversation centers around the kid(s). Your days and often your nights are about the caring for the kid(s). You and your spouse might even work all day and the only conversations you have are short calls or texts made from work.

I am so adament about having alone time with your spouse in the way of a "date night" that I just had to write about it here. Marriage takes lots of work and having a "date night" is what adds life to a marriage after the kid(s) arrive. I am not alone in this theory. Many marriage experts advocate date nights. And there are books/tapes about planning great date nights with your spouse.

Some states have started "date night" with a unique idea. You pay $10-$20 dollars for a one time "date night" card. Then you select from a list of restaurants that honor a "date night"-- which are typically weekdays when business is slow. You and your spouse go to one of these restaurants and bingo, you get a great discount on your meal--it may even be a buy one, get one meal. Hopefully more states will get into this soon.

It really doesn't matter where you go on a date night. It's just that you and your spouse have alone time in which you agree NOT to speak about the kid(s). You would be surprised how these quiet times can be really fun and help you reconnect with your spouse. A fringe benefit is that it can also lead to greater intimacy and a more exciting sex life. As the kid(s) get older, you and your spouse might even extend the "date night" to include a night away from the kid(s) entirely--such as staying at a hotel or swapping a home with another couple.

Use your imagination and have fun. Share the planning of the "date night" and make it a regular thing. You won't be disappointed I guarantee you!