"Married at First Sight"

Dear Followers,

I have not written on this blog in some time and for that I apologize.

When I found this new TV show, "Married at First Sight", I couldn't resist to share this concept with you. Participants were many, but were nailed down to three couples for this first attempt at presentation on TV. Four professionals were given the task of selecting "couples" who were compatible enough to be married on air, having never even seen or spoken to each other.

All three couples selected were in their 20's and 30's. All were frightened and willing to go along with the marriages, knowing that after 4-5 weeks of marriage, they would have the opportunity to divorce. Nothing would be lost to them upon divorce except having a "marriage" on their personal record.

First couple to marry were an African-American couple in their 30's. Both had places of their own, he in New Jersey and she in Harlem. She had many reasons to have him more into her home and after much trepidation, he agreed to move into New York apartment but he also wanted to keep his New Jersey home just in case. The couple were immediately sexually attracted to each other and had sex right after the wedding vows. That was all well and good, but communication issues seem to be plaguing the woman in particular so whether they stay together remains to be seen.

Second couple were a cute white couple in their 20's. He lived in the Brooklyn area where he was an EMT and soon to be firefighter. They too seemed to be attracted sexually. She lived and worked in New York City so their lives were up in the air deciding where to live since he worked very many long hours. They really want this marriage to work, so they decided it would be best to move into a new place period so they can build a "new" life in a neutral place. So far, so good with them although making time for each other proves to be very difficult with their varying schedules.

Lastly in a couple in their 20's. Both are white and established in their professional lives. She lives by herself and has no family support at all. He has lived with his family and is very close to them. One big obstacle occurred as she walked down the aisle. One look at him and she claimed that she was not attracted to him at all. In fact, at the wedding reception she broke down in tears as she thought about her future with a man like that. Her friends told her to "give it a chance" and she began to have feeling for him because he was so kind and patient. He realized that he would gain nothing if he pushed her to have sex. As of a few weeks of marriage, she says that "he has grown on me" and with his kind ways, she is now kissing and hugging him. Whether they have sex soon and how it impacts the marriage remains to be seen with the "Intimacy" episode coming on tonight.

I do now want to give my opinion of this project for another week or two. Right now, I have my money for couple number two for staying in the marriage. Do you think it is possible to be in a successful marriage that was arranged by only "compatible" measures?