Middle Age Crazies

They say that both men and women go through a mid life crisis. With women, it appears that the mid life crisis usually comes at the time of perimenopause and menopause. With the hormones fluctuating so and estrogen levels lowering, it's no wonder why a woman can go from a pleasant, loving woman to a bitchy, unstable person. Plus, a woman is probably undergoing numerous physical changes due to the hormonal ups and downs. Hot flashes, lack of sleep, bloating, breast soreness and lack of libido can indeed cause problems to both the husband and wife.

So what's with men when they have a mid life crisis? Are their levels of testosterone lowering causing them to feel more insecure and less virile? Is that why men at this time of life want a new sexy sports car or worse yet, some sexy younger woman?

It's really important that within the context of marriage and a functional husband/wife relationship, both partners are aware of changes that come with mid life crises. Tolerance, empathy and understanding are the keys to getting through this period of life. If a husband or wife are feeling less than whole, it's up to the partner to help the other get through this vulnerable time. Even if you want to wring the neck of your partner, step inside their mind. and understand that they may have little control of their emotions. Allow them to express their feelings even if you can't really understand them.

This time of life is a natural occurrence in both men and women. It's how you cope and how you support your spouse through these times that can make the difference in whether your marriage can last and flourish.