What happens when your marriage does not feel the same as it did? Over time, things change. Perhaps, you are new parents dividing your time between marriage and parenthood. Suppose you are now an emptynester and the quiet over dinner is awkward and deafening. You look over the table to see your spouse watching TV with the newspaper next to his glass. What happened to the spouse that caused fludders in your stomach when you looked at him/her and a warm and tingling feeling in your genitals just thinking of sex.
What happened over the years to make it all so different. Sure there is the aspect of people growing and changing. Men and women are different so the growing and changing could involve growing apart. Perhaps you are seeing your spouse through binoculars. Every little flaw is brought into clear focus and even the little flaws are evident and somewhat annoying. What you thought was a cute little characteristic is now a pain in the rear. The moodiness, the anger and criticism is hardly recognizable. You wish you were in a dream.
However, you don't wake up and each day is the same. Should you stay or go? Do you know what to do and how to make it better if that is what is agreed upon. Is individual counseling or marriage counseling a good idea? Can we learn how to communicate in a way that works for the two of us without blame and childlike dialogue? What if our paths are too separate now with no conversion possible. What if life will ultimately be a new normal.
Life finds a way to challenge us even when we are "happy" with the status quo.
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