Marriage is no different than any other "condition" or "state of being". Some days are rewarding and fulfilling and other days are plain out rough and challenging. You mental state has a lot to do with how you feel about any situation. If you are relaxed and content, challenges that come up in everyday living, including marriage, are dealt with in a more functional way.
Thus, if you have had a stressful day at work or at home, it's not the time to "discuss" a habit that your spouse has that has been annoying to you. Plan on engaging in this discussion another day. Dirty socks thrown on the bedroom floor can wait another day! Remember too, whenever you get into a meaningful discussion of "annoying habits," that you too have some. In fact, we all do. Is it even worth discussing period? It is something that on good days you can live with? If so, why not forget it? Save your battles for really important issues.
As Dr. Phil says, there are certain "deal breakers" in a marriage such as physical or emotional abuse or addictions. I am not talking about these tremendous obstacles. (I will, another time.) I am talking about the right time to discuss everyday annoyances and issues. Pick your day and pick your mood. It will make challenging days less frequent.
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