Recently, I heard a story from a coworker about a man that she had dated for about seven years. Yes, I know what you're thinking now.....why would someone want to just "date" for seven years? I am not sure of that answer either except that the good thing was that they didn't live together.
At any rate, this coworker frequently saw her boyfriend with another woman. However the boyfriend told her that this woman was a cousin who had cancer and that it was his job to take care of her. The really significant time this "cousin" showed up was at a funeral that my coworker attended out of state for a relative of her boyfriend. She sat in the church pew with two other women, including the "cousin." Conversation began with these two other woman and both said they were dating my coworker's boyfriend. With that information, my coworker went ballistic and was escorted from the church. She also found out that her boyfriend's mother, who she had met many times over the years, knew all about her son dating three women at one time.
Logic might tell you that you should have seen signs of something way wrong. There had to be so many lies crossing your path day after day that you overlooked. What were the signs you missed and why? Were you so needy in the relationship that you were settling for beans? Today, she admits that she missed some clues/signs and feels very stupid about what she did. Even today, when this scumbag sees her, (he works nearby) he wants to engage her in conversation and she just pretends he is invisible.
The morale of this story is........don't be so starry eyed that you miss important details about the human being that you are seeing. When something in your gut doesn't feel right, then it isn't. Don't ignore clues or signs that your friend is lying or cheating. It's a painful way to end a relationship, but it would be far more painful had that relationship culminated in marriage or children.
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